I remember making a decision a few years ago that cost me time, energy, and reputation. At the time, it felt like the obvious next step—but looking back, I realise I made the decision from a place of habit, not reflection. I didn’t pause to consider what had gone wrong before, or how to do it differently this time. I just hoped for a better result by doing the same thing again.
Sound familiar?
We all fall into patterns. We repeat decisions or approaches that feel safe—yet often bring the same disappointing outcomes. The truth is, growth doesn’t happen from simply doing more—it happens from thinking differently. If we want better results, we need to pause, reflect, and disrupt the autopilot.
Here’s how to reflect on what went wrong—and make a better decision now:
Define the decision clearly
Don’t rush to solve a vague problem. Clarity now prevents confusion later. Try writing the problem down on paper.
Name what’s stressful
Is it the pressure to please? Fear of failing again? When you name the stress, you can attack it—and avoid reactionary thinking.
Look at past decisions
What similar situation didn’t go well before? What exactly went wrong? Be specific. Patterns hide in the details. Again, trying to do like for like comparison on paper.
Challenge your assumptions
What shortcuts or beliefs drove your old decisions? Were you trying to control things you couldn’t? Acting on limited information?
Apply the learning
This is the most important step. Shift your approach before you make the next move.
You’re not stuck because you made a mistake—you’re stuck if you don’t learn from it. Your past is a powerful classroom if you take the time to listen.
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